Can you sense it coming? Just there under the surface of each look and each unsaid word – the fuming. It’s the start of the tango music about to explode.
In watching the dance of a couple’s argument starting to brew, each person takes a step. It may be a physical, emotional, mental or energetic shift. It may be either toward or away from the other. It may be proactive or in response. It may be only one lunging step or a drawn-out shuffle.
As the passion rises, each person takes a position, wanting to hold their own integrity, their own rights, their own story, and possibly their own defense. Persuading the other to see their viewpoint, the dance commences. Spiraling, charging, stopping, pausing, surging. The music of words spoken in harshness, of hurt, of being ‘right,’ of proving a point…at what cost? Does the music play on to this dance every day? Is this the couple’s lived reality, or a musical interlude of an otherwise placid waltz through life together?
Who is to know, and who is to judge? Love shares itself in passion and movement. Dancing an argument may be music to one’s ears. It may be the language of the relationship…or it may be the last notes of their song together.
(C) 2011 Whitney McMillan
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