How come? I believe it’s because of the giant ‘should’ attached to most resolutions. Often we select a resolution based on what we think we ‘need to’ do, or what we’ve been told will be good for us. We pick resolutions with our heads, more than our hearts. Where’s the passion in that? No wonder we drop them!

Add to this…very often resolutions focus on bringing greater happiness into our world – it’s what we each ‘want’ above all else: Happiness. Whether we think it’ll come with better diet, more exercise, closer friendships, new hobbies or the like, we somehow lack contentment, so we seek a bigger sense of joy. Only what we’re aiming for is a magic potion to unlock our inner joy overnight. When we realize it takes consistent dedication, we slowly (or haltingly) resolve ourselves to our current level of (un)happiness. We turtle!

Stuck with neither ‘need’ nor ‘want’ sparking fabulous results, let’s reframe resolutions with a fresh hook of inspiration: the Word-of-the-Year…or more appropriately YOUR Word-of-the-Year. Yup, with a single word, you can shift your life!

Why a single word? By having a single concise word at the ready, you can easily and effortlessly remind yourself of your intention in any given moment. The theme becomes so top-of-mind that it lives on the tip-of-your-tongue. With a single thought or utterance, you re-align with the intention the word holds for you: it re-ignites you.

Plus, you can let go of a long list of resolutions – a.k.a. nagging ‘shoulds’ – which could be the biggest blessing of all! With resolutions its about you coming up with what you ‘think’ you need to do. But with your Word-of-the-Year, you simply invite a theme into your life generally. You aren’t in charge of the ‘how’!

Can it be that easy? Well, your intentional word expresses a heart-based sense of your big ‘why’ of life. It challenges you to dig deep and discern your heart’s desire. It calls on you to check-in with your alignment and observe the blocks to your life lessons. It provides amazing clarity to your best version of yourself. It reminds you that greater happiness is closer than a dream.

But what word?? Well, my examples may help inspire you.

In 2010, my word-of-the-year was ‘Blossoming’: I expanded my practice with several key new tools/techniques, reframed my business, travelled tons for courses and for pleasure, began writing articles, refocused my biz networking, facilitated more workshops at diverse locations, uttered the words: “One day I’ll write a book,” etc.

In 2011, my word was ‘Connection’: I ventured forward into the techi-age with a new website and blog, started my social media adventure, met amazing fellow biz gals, started teaching and focused on biz coaching, wrote and published a book, etc.

In 2012, my word was ‘Focus’: After years of expanding forward, I found my current calling – the voice of overwhelm freedom! My aim was to regroup and stay balanced, free of distractions and diversions. My awareness filtered and zeroed in on serving my vision, my clients, and my community. My attention was dedicated to freeing YOUR overwhelm!

In 2013, my word was ‘Healing’: Interestingly, I didn’t start with that theme, but early in the year I was in a car accident, which quickly had me on my knees – well, my back actually! – and switching my focus. Launching into a big growth time, instead I stumbled. Yet, it was just what I needed (without knowing it): the opportunity to heal, on many levels.

In 2014, my word is ‘Compassion’: With many years of dedicated growth and service, I welcome some softening. Now’s time to walk my talk of self-care more fully! Mind you, not at anyone else’s expense, so it’ll require a delicate balance of decision-making that supports me and those I love…including you!

Just like for me, your word will manifest amazing opportunities in your life. May I suggest using your journal to help you get clear and to narrow your words to the prize winner:

• What are you dedicated to this year?
• What do you want to move toward?
• What can you let go of in order to make your word your priority?
• How will you serve the world in 2014?
• How will your word serve you?
• What one word inspires you for 2014?

Need some support in visioning your Word-of-the-Year and your best 2014? Feel free to get in touch. I’d be honoured to support you in magically manifesting your rockin’ theme!

And please share your Word-of-the-Year with others in our community. Inspire us!

If you could chose ONLY eight – yes, 8 – people to dine with you, who would they be? Who are the most awe inspiring, wise and/or humorous peeps you’d like to join you for yummy food, sparkling conversation and rounds of laughter?

You may consider possible political leaders, sports figures, ‘creatives’ (actors, singers, artists, writers), humanitarians, TV personalities…gurus of any sort. They may be personal teachers of yours, or role models you look up to. Or they may be people you know personally, including family members, friends, neighbours, community members, pets and the like.

In some way, each one you consider will have touched your heart. You likely feel great gratitude toward them for some reason. You respect them in some way. They reflect your values of daily life and/or your vision for the world. Only which ones hold an honoured seat at your dinner table?

Try this tip for narrowing your list: Who would you ask to share in this blessing?

Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.

For all the people you consider inviting, hold a special place of gratitude in your heart. For those you do not know, send a little wish-filled prayer. For those you do know, find ways to authentically connect with each one in the coming weeks, letting them feel your gratitude.

One final vital question: What dessert will you serve?  ; )

Wishing you a friend-filled, family-fun, hassle-free, no ‘shoulds’ attached holiday season with all the peeps who you invite!

P.S. Why am I suggesting you invite ONLY 8 people? Because an arbitrary number is needed for narrowing your list…and because there are 8 place settings in the image above!

Recently, several peeps close to me have gone through some wicked hard times. Relationships breakdowns, unexpected career shifts, and health issues seem to be an overwhelming theme for many. Add to this the endless TV news of huge disasters impacting millions of people we don’t know personally.

Dare to tell anyone of these peeps to ‘count your blessing’, and the evil eye may target you! So often ‘count your blessings’ can be easily, off-handedly, and even flippantly said that it lacks the sincere message of support and concern you may deeply share. Sometimes it obvious when we’re stuck in a tough situation, and other times we silently keep our hard place to ourselves. We may stand stoically or melt with a whisper. At all times, we are doing the best we can with where we are and what we know. But can we always be grateful?

One of the greatest tools at our disposal when we find ourselves in hard times – expectedly or unexpectedly – is gratitude. Only where do you find blessings under a hay stack from hell? Sure, for some it may be easy to ‘see the bright side of life’…humming a tune of gratitude no matter the situation. Maybe you’ve grown your gratitude muscle from a regular gratitude practice. For others, gratitude may be visited rarely, if ever. Wherever you’re at, you’ll respond as you choose to in the midst of a tough situation.

Only the coach in me hopes to inspire some Boy Scout preparedness!

Here’s my tip: Make your list a head of time. In fact, the next time you find yourself humming along in life, take a few minutes to write down what you are grateful for. Don’t just think the grateful thoughts…write them: use a journal, type up a document, creatively design a beautiful note, or add an affirmation to your smartphone.

Because here’s the catch: It can be super overwhelming as you’re drowning in a blinding flow of dread to try to find that needle of sunlight in your life. Opening a journal, clicking on a computer file, scanning your bulletin board, or surfing your smartphone for a list of things you were once grateful for may be the nudge you need to count your blessings once again. Do the work ahead of time, so that when the heaviness hits you have your gratitude ready to respond. All it takes is a few key messages of gratitude to kick start you to count your blessings, even when you’re still living under the hay stack from hell.

Smile with joy when the blessings you pre-prepared shift, lift, or lighten your dark hours. Welcome gratitude for your preparedness – it’s a blessing itself!

Time to get your gratitude on – Count your blessings!

I am grateful for…

My life is blessed by…

Light shines on me because…

Thank God for ‘PVRing’ and ‘TEVOing’ – words soon to be added to English dictionaries! With so many evenings and weekends spent out networking, relaxing and playing, it’s a treasure to record key shows, sports events and the like, knowing they can be enjoyed later when time allows.

So when the final episode of the final season of ‘In Plain Sight’ was scheduled, my PVR was immediately set – it was my final date with some of my fave fake peeps.

While the topic of the show isn’t my first go-to interest, it’s the sassy interactions that hooked me. Sure, it’s well acted, but what I truly LOVE is the banter – it’s got fast-paced quick whit with intelligent lingo balanced with street gab. Bouncing between endearments and sarcasm, a fabulous chemistry of characters, sexual tension, and a true sense of friendship illustrated values I relate to including loyalty, camaraderie, feminine empowerment, and service to others.

What was special about the final final final show? For me, it was lessons learned in the final moments. Throughout the whole series a childhood story was woven with the final episodes focused on the main character, Mary’s, childhood memories and feelings of abandonment after her father ran out on the family when she was a young girl. Upon his death, Mary was released to address the past and move forward with a fresh start – for the viewer the thread of a key story was pulled. As she scattered his ashes, the tears rolled down my cheeks. I knew that moment from my own life, and through a TV show a familiar wound re-opened. Time to do more inner work! Starting this time with where I am now in my relationship and loss of my own father.

With the show signing off, thank you! Thank you for your humour and intelligence, wounded-ness and personal healing, relationship celebration and readiness to move on. Thank you for bringing me closer to my own healing process through laughter, and as the credits rolled, with tears. Who says TV isn’t impactful!?

I may date myself, but it brings on a sad sense of past TV grief as my TV maturity evolved: as a child, waving goodbye to Mr. Rogers; as a pre-teen, The Love Boat’s last sailing; in college, the West Wing being elected off the air; as a Brit-loving gal, Eastenders showing delayed episodes from 2-years ago; and now, In Plain Sight. While not a world catastrophe, it’s still a lost legacy of another TV era…and a sign of time passing.

Do you recall the feeling of your fave things being lost? Was it a lipstick colour discontinued, a beloved colour from last season’s fashions vanished, a delicious yummy ice cream flavour melted away…? So what’s your fave TV show that’s no longer running? What makes it special in your memory? Love to share our TV notes!

So when my wrist fell victim to my overuse this week, I had no one to hold responsible but me. It was my own focused energy that drove me to overdo it with cleaning, organizing, lifting, hoisting, heaving, and the like. No wonder by mid-week by left hand gave me the finger!

Of course, my dear hubby finds it the perfect opportunity to blast my new hobby of knitting. Having taken up the needles only a few months ago and diving in enthusiastically with all 10 fingers, he figures it’s the downfall of my hands – ‘It’s ALL that knitting!’ It’s not really surprising given my pattern of overwhelm as I step up fully, either with both feet (or both hands!) first into any activity. Sorry to disappoint him, but needles have strengthened my wrists, increased my hand agility, and brought joy to my heart with each click clack!

Blessed with a refreshed appreciation for all the ways my limbs serve my quality of life, I understand at a far deeper level the challenges my beloved friend lives with, having had a stroke last summer while young and super active. Learning yesterday that another friend in the prime of her life had a stroke this summer grounds the lesson limbs offer: Love us while we work and be patient when we don’t!

Splinted and bandaged, my wee wrist salutes all who live with limited mobility, slower fingers, and joint aches and pains. Please be honoured by this one-handed blog post…each single letter typed at a time – URGGGGGGGH! Know that with each letter there was a silent thought: Thank God it wasn’t my right wrist – then I’d be really hooped!

Take the time to hug your limbs today!

At the recent Hay House I Can Do It conference I attended, Robert Holden rocked my world. It wasn’t only what he said but how he presented it. His authentic passion for the subject paired with his sense of humour struck a chord for me – a message I really needed in the moment with the delivery I welcomed. And one I pass along to you as a seed…just in case you welcome it into your world. As Robert shared: ‘When the receiver is ready, the gift arrives.’

Covering several different ‘principles,’ Robert connected two in particular to a similar message, merging healing and growing. He inspired self-evaluation of where we are each at in life, where we have been, and where we want to go. Ready to take the ride?

I loved his point: The past is finished, IF you are finished with it. As long as you remain attached to it, it remains attached to you. If you are feeling overwhelmed by something from the past, you keep it alive by breathing time, energy, and focus into it. It stays with you until you forgive it, and in doing so, release it.

Once we outgrow the past, we can live in the present moment, because we changed the meaning of the past. We take responsibility for this moment onwards ONLY, resulting in a new beginning. From here, we stop ‘being’ and start ‘becoming’ – we blossom!

So, are you still growing? As growing is a life-long journey, not only of our bodies, but our minds, hearts, and souls, I truly hope you answered ‘Hell, yes!’ If not, if something stalled you celebrating a giant ‘yes,’ it may not be an outright ‘no’ either. If something is missing in your life, it is probably YOU! Something about your past may have you stuck, so you aren’t able to show up in your life as fully as a ‘Hell, yes’…at least not yet.

Robert shared that ‘the ego is waiting to be ready, while the soul (your essence) is ready already.’ Often we get lost in the ego-driven aspects of life, resulting in us feeling unready to heal and grow. We hand our power over to our ego monkey mind to direct our journey, leaving our soul on hold in a waiting room.

Please know it is never too late… to be alive, to be young, to heal, to take risks, to live from your heart, to step up, and to be present in your own life. The answers to the key questions rest with you: Are you waiting or willing? Are you being or becoming?

To inspire you to consider joining us in the inner growth fest next year (or at other venues internationally), I thought I’d share some of the key moments that shifted my ‘stuff,’ sparked my heart, and opened me up to meeting new aspects of myself. While I am not comfortable sharing other people’s insights, please know there were many within my social circle…too many to count!

Where to start? How about the opening words…

‘Don’t fence me in…’ were the lyrics hummed by Wayne Dyer, as he introduced the idea of ‘can’t’ and ‘shouldn’t’ – two of the most harmful words in the world, in my opinion. Taking it to another level, Wayne (as I call him ‘cause we’re best buds!) shifted us into considering the labels that fence each of us in. He asked: ‘What labels do you live?’ This sparked a landslide of queries for me: Which labels are given to me by others? Which are self-selected? Which ones do I want to release? Which ones do I happily embrace? How do I ‘let’ labels define me? Meaning: How do I choose to be defined?

Greg Braden, the Indian Jones of Self-Growth (as Robert Holden joked), caught my heart when he talked about THE longest journey. It’s not to a place…it’s within. It’s the 10 inch route from your head to your heart. How often do you take that journey to connect your thoughts and emotions? How often to do you witness that route blocked by fears, anger, guilt, etc.? How do you clear the path again and again and again?

Marianne Williamson is one of my all-time faves. Highlights that took my breath away as she appeared to channel her talk began with: ‘Your happiest days have sad moments.’ So true. Then when she got on a roll about feeling defensive, she simply took a step back and to the side, creating a vision of allowing the ‘attack to flow past.’ To not engage and to not defend came to these words: ‘In my defencelessness my safety lays.’ Pure beauty! Where in your life can you step to the side, letting your guard relax?

In the evening, Doreen Virtue shared a loving audience. In speaking about lifestyle and quality of life, she asked us: ‘How much do you live in your head? How much do you live in your heart?’ If you were to guess-timate a percentage, where do you live most often? How’s that working for you? What percentage would you like to shift it to ideally?

The chit chat between Louise Hay and Cheryl Richardson was a great launch for Day 2. A key image I’m now utilizing is to dissolve a habit, rather than break it. To dissolve feels so much more ease-filled to me than to crack and tear to break free. In sharing tips for self-care, I loved their connection between your quality of life and your quality of thinking. To take it further, I upped it to the quality of your self-care reflects your quality of self-love. Where is your deserve-ability of self-loving-care today?

Bruce Lipton, the Master of Biology Thinking, presented the best biology class of my life! Science does not need to be intimidating or out-dated. But be warned: Buckle your seat-belt for a blitz rocket-ride of insightful info. My hand cramped with note taking, until I relaxed into receiving Bruce’s wisdom, releasing my brain and listening with my heart.

Truth be told, I missed Caroline Myss’ presentation, as I ‘peopled’ the Heal Your Life information booth. However, if it’s anything like the many other times I’ve seen Caroline talk, it was likely filled with sage wisdom and some sharp barbs of well-delivered honesty.

Last, but possibly my fave, the conference wrapped up with Robert Holden holding space for tears of laughter. His six principles of Shift Happens were marked with a key aspect many of us often overlook: Your daily practice is the opportunity to ‘meet yourself.’ Love the reminder to make this re-introduction with the new me each day with gratitude and a hearty smile. So what can a daily practice include? I loved his description of a God meditation, probing: How much does God love me? And how much do I let God love me? If God is love, God’s love is 100%. How much I let God love me is the difference between where I jump ship. What’s the percentage difference for you? And if that’s a biggie, consider Robert’s affirmation suggestion: ‘Dear God, show me the truth about myself, no matter how beautiful it is.’ Tears of laughter turned to tears of self-love.

May my favourite nuggets of I Can Do It wisdom and love inspire you to take the next step in your self-discovery journey. Be the inspiration in your own life…and you will inspire others!

I feel truly honoured to be asked to review a recently release gem of a book titled, Pearls of Wisdom: 30 Inspirational Ideas to Live Your Best Live Now! And now to share it with you….

A heads-up – I love self-discovery book! So, you won’t be surprised that I devoured this fabulous anthology of nuggets. Headlining the book cover are the likes of Jack Canfield, one of the leaders in the self-help field as co-creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul book series. Very much in a similar format and feel as the Chicken Soup books, Pearls of Wisdom is a collection of diverse viewpoints, life experiences, techniques/tools, etc. focused on transformational messages to help you create a more fulfilling life for yourself.

To round out the headliners are Marci Shimoff, Janet Bray Attwood, and Chris Attwood, all previous best-selling authors in their own right. What I love within the cover of Pearls of Wisdom is that my favourite pieces are from some of the rising stars of the self-help movement. Partnering veterans in the field with ‘inspirers’ at different stages of ‘newbie’ status creates a beautiful mentoring feel. It’s as if a door is opening to welcome fresh perspectives into an expanding self-help genre. My strong suggestion is to embrace the more unfamiliar names into your heart.

The joy of a compilation book is considering how to approach it. Unlike a novel or typical self-help book that guide you from cover to cover – or in the case of Pearls of Wisdom from shell to shell – with an anthology you often have other options. So I rocked the options! My choice: to do a ‘random’ (if you believe such a thing exists!) reading of whatever chapter the book opened to at a given time. What a treat! Each day I made time to silently savour a few minutes to myself. Often with a cup of tea at my side, I’d sit, breathe, focus, ask for guidance, and then open Pearls of Wisdom to a page…any page. Wherever my fingers took me, I started.

With each bite-sized chapter by a different writer, the topic, style, and tone seemed to reflect exactly what I needed in each moment. It was truly inspired reading! Every story connected with me in some unique way. Just like it’s name, I love how Pearls of Wisdom offers so many gems of inspiration…and in some very practical ways. This is a book that I closed after each reading feeling I was empowered with more information in the form of tips, tools and insights. I imagine having this book as a resource on my shelf for moments when I need a kick-in- the-butt to focus on a positive life change, and/or to remind myself of my passions.

The title, Pearls of Wisdom, is inspired by the quote, “An oyster can’t produce a pearl without first suffering from a grain of sand.” Mirroring life, the title and the book speak to the reality of life challenges offering the greatest opportunity for inner growth. When better to read an inspired chapter than when we’re faced with something we perceive to be bad, only to watch as it transforms into a blessing. Between the covers of Pearls of Wisdom, you may very well find a moment of transformation that shifts your world forever – a pearl. I did.

If you wish more inspiration to buy Pearls of Wisdom, please read my previous blog interviews with Chantal Herman and Susan Loraine Barker, and then grab your copy of Pearls of Wisdom: 30 Inspirational Ideas to Live Your Best Life Now! Get it while it’s flying off the shelves!

Check out Pearls of Wisdom for yourself…Click HERE

Today, it’s my honour to introduce you to the amazing Susan Loraine Barker, the magical gal who kicks your thoughts of un-worthiness to the curb in her awe-inspiring contribution to the book, Pearls of Wisdom: Thirty Inspirational Ideas to Live Your Best Life Now!

Susan’s chapter, titled You are Already Enough, is based on the philosophy that we are worthy and enough simply because we are alive and that nothing we do or do not do in this life changes that. It is time for ‘not good enough’ thoughts to be replaced by positive motivations because you are ‘already good enough!’ It is unconditional love, so get ready to treat yourself well and follow your heartaftre reading Susan’s sparkling pep-talk!

Curious to find out more about Susan’s approach and her writing journey in Pearls of Wisdom, I asked:

What kind of wisdom do you have to offer the reader?

I have my experience and what has worked for me and my clients. I also have lots of hard won love and acceptance to share. I believe we all have the belief that we are not enough or worthy somewhere in our psyche. How can we not? We grow up experiencing that we need to look a certain way, act a certain way and accomplish certain things in order to be accepted and loved. Therefore, we cannot just be enough! I believe it is our sacred contract to overcome our family and cultural training and realize that we are who we are supposed to be and that is enough. From that place of enough, we can thrive and shine.

What is your most central and compelling “pearl of wisdom”?

You have everything you need within to be your greatest self because…you know what’s coming…you are already enough.

How would you like your readers to think of you?  What is your “signature niche”?

At this time I think it is that You are Already Enough.  Whether I am talking about loving the body you have today or pointing out the story you are telling that is holding you back, it always comes back to you being perfectly, authentically and gloriously you.  I believe that is the key to happiness, liberation from the tyranny of our inner and outer critics, and to unconditional love.  The unconditional part creates miracles, changes lives and saves the world.

What do you think makes this book unique and who would want to read it?

I love that this book offers 30 ideas, 30 choices and 30 voices. Certain voices and styles of connecting resonate with us at different times in our lives. I believe the benevolent universe is always working on our behalf and is always offering what we need to know next.  30 voices means that there are 30 more chances that you will get the message you need right now from this book.

How can people find you?

I work with people all over the U.S, Canada and Europe. My website is http://www.themandalacoach.com/  You can subscribe to a free newsletter and download helpful information there. I also offer daily empowering thoughts on Facebook and Twitter which can also be accessed from my website. Mandalas are designs that symbolize the wholeness and perfection of the universe.  We are mandalas.

A huge hug of gratitude to Susan Barker for sharing her loving wisdom to inspire our ‘enough-ness’. To read more, check out Pearls of Wisdom on Amazon.com

Ready to find out more about Susan…

Susan Loraine Barker, CEC is a certified, professional, life empowerment coach. She specializes in using tools such as mandalas and sacred contracts or archetypes to introduce you to your user’s manual for who you are and why you are already enough, physically, mentally, and spiritually.  Knowing your purpose and major life lessons, as well as how to make your world work for you instead of trying to change who you are to fit the world enables you to be your greatest self.

Susan is a spiritual coach working with clients all over the United States, as well as Canada and Europe.  She uses her background as a coach, educator and inspirational speaker to create a unique experience of self-discovery and actualization in her coaching, conference presentations and workshops.

Susan is the author of The Love Buffet: A book about ending your War with Food and Loving Your Bodacious Body coming out in 2012 as well as a co-author of Pearls of Wisdom: 30 Inspirational Ideas to Live Your Best Life Now. Susan also has been published in Evolving Your Spirit Magazine and is a monthly contributor on the expert panel of Women’s Ally.

You can learn more about Susan at http://www.themandalacoach.com/ Visit for a free download of Why You Are already Enough.

I am honoured to share a recent message by Marielle:

Immediately after the Spring Equinox we are once again on the wave of ascending energies coming from Earth and fertilized by this Full Moon – the first and most powerful of the year. Traditionally it is believed that this one activates the heart chakra. It makes sense to engage with an open heart in our yearly journey redefined uniquely at each subsequent Full Moon.

A theme stands out strong and loud in the planetary configurations of this lunation: love and healing old wounds. Venus, planet of love, rules this Libra Moon, and Venus is in deep negotiation with peace maker Neptune and tired warrior Retrograde Mars.

We all suffer from a broken heart

In my line of work I have the opportunity to witness an aspect of the human reality that is much more common than one would think – the condition of being heartbroken. Yes, we all have various degrees of it and it does influence so many aspects of our lives:

Fear of others:

Some people have come to extreme lack of self acceptance – this is regardless of their physical appearance (either they are absolutely gorgeous or anywhere on that scale of measure). In a state of great vulnerability they keep watching other people’s reaction to see if they will like, love or approve of them – while expecting the opposite. Of course the reality is that lots of people will indeed approve of that person but, even though it is the case, it won’t fix the condition of their lack of self acceptance. Why? Without self-love one cannot receive the love of others, one cannot really share moments of love either because their fear always remains in the background ready to jump in at the slightest trigger.

How does someone become like this? We imagine that in their most vulnerable time – as a baby, as a toddler, as a young child – they may have been the victim of the dysfunctional behavior of their parents or other adults who also had a broken heart (without them being fully aware of that condition, of course). We get so used to our broken parts that we lose consciousness of them. We come to think that we are made like this. Our broken parts are invisible. That’s why it is so difficult to recognize them. We can only develop an awareness of them by the pain they constantly cause in our life.

Fear of the outcome:

Some people will avoid engaging toward their dreams out of fear of failure. Paradoxically they usually also fear success. As they progress through other choices they made they’ll often develop bitterness and frustration because life cannot be fully satisfying if we are not aligned with our true calling and the expression of our natural talents.

Why are they not choosing what’s best for them? That form of wounding often comes from having been discouraged or ridiculed when, much younger, they have tried something they liked. It is normal to show incompetence first before becoming a master. This condition is inevitable and should never be held against the performer. Those imposing the ridicule, of course, suffered of the same wounding and that’s why they were apt to inflict it to others.

Self sabotage, self abuse, self destruction, cheating, gossiping, blaming… we could go on and on about the expressions of the broken heart. This is an endless cycle. The one being hurt will hurt others and they’ll continue accordingly toward others and we all are the result of this since the beginning of humankind existence. How can one transform and heal such cycles?

Full Moon in Libra: Balance and heal the heart

The Moon is near Saturn emphasizing the importance of setting one’s intentions clearly and to commit. Saturn supports efforts and long term achievements. What great opportunity to focus on the healing of our broken parts. The only thing to heal is the heart. Everything else will be taken care of naturally.

Step # 1:

Reconciliation with ourself. When looking back we all have memories of things we did or said that we wish would have been done differently. Often we are stuck in such regrets because we cannot accept that we actually indulged in performing them. This resistance creates a separation within ourself and makes it impossible to heal and blossom. Look at those past events as being the expression of our wounded parts. We were not fully responsible – not as much as we think we were. When accepting how we were then with compassion and humbleness we can, at last, become who we want to be now

Step # 2:

The reprogramming. As we become more compassionate about our past self we must remain attentive and take notice when a trigger will activate our past behavior. Noticing may not prevent us from repeating past mistakes but it begins to awaken the consciousness to what we don’t want to be anymore and, soon, we’ll feel the trigger without acting upon it… soon, again, the trigger won’t even exist anymore. We’ll be repaired!

This intimate journey is very personal, delicious, sometimes frustrating but one shouldn’t give up, ever. Can we imagine the wave of hurtful behavior diminishing in the world until, eventually, nobody will ever hurt others again but, instead, we’ll all become empowered by self love, the love of others, and other’s love directed at ourself? Can we imagine such humanity? One who is healed cannot judge the one unhealed. If they cannot help directly in the other’s healing they are helping indirectly by holding unconditional love in their heart. Every journey begins by its first step… can it be now?

With hugs of appreciation to…

Marielle Croft, Certified Astrologer
Website: http://www.croftastrologer.com

Email: [email protected]

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